就是亂碼

大部份最新的科技醫療技術都來自美國，
這些科學家們,標榜著擁有最先進對抗老化aging，
保持青春美麗forever young的研究；
我不能否認他們的研究成果，或對人類偉大的貢獻．．

但是比較我不解的是：
為何美國人的平均壽命比我們短？
而且，同年齡的外貌目視，
西方人看來，並沒比東方人年輕哪．．

難道這些抗老的專家，只把這些技術”出口”？
Hm...這蠻有趣的..

無論如何．．記得要幸福哦．．
Anyhow, Whatever, ...BE HAPPY...

What's HAPPINESS ? How to be HAPPY ?
什麼叫幸福呢？　又要如何快樂呢？

You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of.
如果你老是尋求（在意）快樂的內容，你就永遠找不到快樂．

You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.
如果你一直想找尋有意義的生活，你就很難活得好．．

It cannot be bought and material things don't create it. If you constantly pursue it you will never find it.
如果你經常追逐它，你就找不著；你買不到它；有形物質沒辦法創造它．．．

Count your blessings - develop an attitude of gratitude -
經常數算恩典，常懷感激．．

surprise yourself by realizing how valuable you are.
經由明瞭自我的價值，讓自己驚奇．．

Break out of the prison of procrastination and you'll find happiness beyond your wildest dreams.
打破因循苟且（怠慢）的綑綁，你將會發現　”快樂”　超越了你最寬廣的夢想．．．

以前很少去真正思索什麼叫”痛苦”？
當今有機會真正用心思想什麼叫”痛苦”時．．
卻意外地變得呆若木雞．．有苦難言．．
這半生也算幸福的；想要的都實現，衣食也無缺，這算幸福了吧？！
但是，這年來　好像上帝將了我一軍似的．．
去年８月　送走母親
今年４月　送走大弟
今年８月　送走公公
噯，要怎麼說呢？
這種無奈的感覺說不出苦，哭不出來；
對”死亡”己經開始有點麻木．．
痛己經不像痛了，而且覺得太熟悉而有了默契．．
經常要提醒自己，好歹是個有信仰的人．．
有信仰的人應該比較堅強，至少比較客觀．．
而且還修過不少”死亡學分”
怎麼可以落入俗套，怎麼能說崩潰就崩潰？！
一年三次葬禮，看見的，聽到的，觸摸到的都不算苦．．
這不過袛是一種．．．叫不出來的”痛”

(我的建議是: 聰明人從別人錯誤中學到成長...笨蛋卻要在自己的錯誤後成長...)

大家都會都說他們為所做過的事負責任. 這或許沒錯...
但是我更相信,為了不順心的事報怨是人的本性, 不管那些錯誤是誰造成的. ....

如果, 你花太多錢血拼, 結果超出預算,付不了帳單, 你肯定會報怨...
如果, 你嫁錯郎/娶錯妻, 結果讓你心碎, 你肯定會報怨...
如果, 你車子整年沒保養, 結果導致半路拋錨, 你肯定也是會"報怨"...
這或許是人性, 報怨,報怨,報怨....
( 其實....有些錯誤根本是自己造成的....)
不管如何, 人非聖賢, 犯錯是難免....
但袛願, 我們都可以在錯誤中學習成長...
而不再發生 "第二次" 的報怨....


Everybody on this comment will say that THEY do take ownership over things they have done. This may be true but I think it’s human to still bitch and complain about the negative things that occur in our lives, no matter who's at fault for them.

If you spent too much money shopping and now your bills are overdue, you gonna complain.

If you chose the wrong man/woman to be with and they ended up breaking your heart, you gonna complain.

If your car breaks down after you failed to get an oil change in over a year, you gonna complain.

Its just human nature. The key is how do we learn from our mistakes and transgressions, so that we never have to complain about the same thing TWICE...

Vitamin C: C the bright side
Vitamin A: Adore yourself
Vitamin R: Relax
Vitamin E: Enjoy life as it comes!

IMP: Do remember to take "CARE" ..
Morning, noon, and night!

維他命C: 要樂觀
維他命A: 愛自己
維他命R: 放輕鬆
維他命E: 享受生命
更重要的是:
要記得 不管早上 中午 或 晚上
要時常照顧好自己哦

Things change, people change.
And your values shouldn't be compromised.
Sometimes folks are supposed to be in your life
at that specific moment,
for that specific purpose,
and for that period of time.
There is a PLAN...

世事會變，人也會變．．
但是，"價值觀"是不容妥協的！
有些人會因著某些目的，
在特定的時期，
在特別的時刻，
出現在我們人生的道路上．．．
這些只不過是個”計劃”
是上帝的安排．．
都是預料中的事．．

It's all a part of the circle of life - there's low's and highs, ebbes and flows...
人生是一個無止盡的循環; 高潮,或低潮, 意氣風發,或落敗衰退...

it just depends on your perspective. I've concluded that life isn't fair - it just is.
各人有不同的觀點....我的結論是: 人生它本來就是不公平的 ..

And it really all depends on whose report you will believe.
而且, 更依照我們個人不同的信仰而有所不同...

It's our CHOICE. I choose to believe God, because sometimes - that's all there is...
這是我們的"選擇".....我就選擇相信 上帝....因為真理就在那裡....

What a gift, to sleep at night,
and wake the next morning
and say "Today is a new day."

It's not yesterday, that's done,
so why cry about it or miss it?

It's not tomorrow,
that's not even here yet,
so why worry about it?

It's today, what will I do with today?
So simple, so radical -
living
loving
learning IN THE PRESENT
可以睡個好覺，睜開眼睛，
為每個新的”今天”喝采，
這是上帝的大禮物哪～～

不必為昨天哭泣，因為昨天己過，
無需為明天煩惱，因為明天還未知，
袛有今天才是最真實．．．
如何把握今天呢？其實很簡單．．
記得要～～
”學習，愛惜，好好活在現在．．．”

Be who you are and say what you feel,
because those who mind don't matter
and those who matter don't mind.
-Dr. Seuss
做想做的事，說想說的話；
了解你的人＿不在意，
那些不了解你的人＿和你無關．．任它去．．

Genius can be recreated - Stupidity is irreplaceable
-Anon
天才可以創造，但笨蛋無可取代．．．

Don't spend major time with minor people.
If there are people in your life that continually
disappoint you,
break promises,
stomp on your dreams,
are too judgmental,
have different values,
and don’t have your back during difficult times…
that is not a friend!

Friendship is earned through time..
You know who your real friends are 10 years later
when they are still getting on your nerves...
(Extracted sentences from Blogs' comments)

別把你的多數時間，浪費在”那些”少數人身上,
”那些”　經常讓你失望；打破承諾；殘踏你的夢想；
論斷你；和你有著不同的價值觀；
在你困難時借故離開的人．．．
那些人都不是你的朋友．．．

友誼是靠時間來建立的．．
如果經過十年之後，有些人還能懂你/了解你．．
那才是真正的朋友．．．

Subject: TALK SHOW 女王"Oprah" 歐普拉_如何描述男女關係??

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behaviour.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to
be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find
what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was
not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A
friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he
probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll
be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you
any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you,
speak up.

Never let a man know everything.
He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behaviour.
Change comes from within.

Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he
has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you
are.

Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men
are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the
bending...compromise is two way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...
there is nothing cute about baggage...
Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship You should
never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two
WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary... not
supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr.
Right.

Make him miss you sometimes...
when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily
available to him - he takes it for granted.

Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully
commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar .

Share this with other women and men (just so they know)... You'll make
someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.

在中文裡，”關連”CONNECTION 這個字似乎聯想有限，
但在電腦專門用語上，我們反而不陌生．．

但是CONNECTION 這個字用途好像更廣泛，
更能清楚表逹人際關係的糾葛．．
在男女關係裡，這個字代表心靈交流的開始，
在家庭關係裡，這個字代表有一定的向心力，
在親子關係裡，這個字代表有雙向溝通，而不是父母掌權控制，
在同儕／同事關係裡，這個字代表著彼此為對方著想，
不設立場，客觀公正，更有多些體諒，而不只有上對下的欺瞞．．

如果，我們心裡都有這個字，明白天下的事，
不論大小，都可能有ＣＯＮＮＥＣＴＩＯＮ＝”關連”
我們就會更虛心接受每天的挑戰．．

我們不再只說：今天你ＹＡＨＯＯ了沒？
是不是，我要開始說：
今天你”關連”了没？．．．呵

墨非定律（Murphy's Law）不是物理上的數學公式，而是許多事的經驗法則。
「定律」開始只有一則，經半個世紀的炒作延伸，不知道有多少萬則了。內容
從嚴肅到幽默、從哲理到庸俗、從科技到迷信，說什麼的都有。

人生不如意事十常八九，怎麼會這樣？它就是會。

墨非定律 -

一、別試圖教豬唱歌，這樣不但不會有結果，還會惹豬不高興!
二、別跟傻瓜吵架，不然旁人會搞不清楚，到底誰是傻瓜!
三、別太祟拜別人，因為他跟他老婆做愛的姿勢跟一般人沒兩樣!
四、不要以為自已很重要，因為沒有你，太陽明天還是一樣從東方升上來!


●開宗明義
墨非定律；凡事只要有可能出錯，那就一定會出錯。
墨非哲學；笑一笑，明天未必比今天好。
墨非準則；東西越好，越不中用。


●開始
好的開始，未必就有好結果。
壞的開始，結果往往會更糟。


●人
你若幫助了一個急需用錢的朋友，他一定會記得你-----
在他下次急需用錢的時候。


●領導人
愚人居高位，正如一個人置身山頂，他會小看每個人。
每個人也會小看他。


●智愚之間
有能力的──讓他做。
沒能力的──教他做。
做不來的──管理他。


●愛情
你愛上的人，總以為你愛上他是因為…他使你想起你的老情人。
你最後硬著頭皮寄出的情書，寄達對方的時間有多長，你反悔的時間就有多長。


●早到與晚到
你早到了，會議卻取消。
你準時到，卻還要等。
遲到，就是遲了。


●品質保證
一種產品保證60天不會故障，等於保證第61天一定就會壞掉。


●東西
東西久久都派不上用場，就可以丟掉。
東西一丟掉，往往就必須要用它。


●尋找失物
你丟掉東西時，最先去找的地方，往往也是可能找到的最後一個地方。
你往往會找到不是你正想找的東西。

●精彩
你出去買爆米花的時候，銀幕上偏偏就出現了精彩鏡頭。


●排隊
另一排總是動的比較快。
你換到另一排，你原來站的那一排，就開始動的比較快了。
你站的越久，越有可能是站錯了排。


●失事報導
失事的地點越遠，傷亡的人數就得越多，否則寫不成一則故事。


●攜伴出遊
你攜伴出遊，越不想讓人看見，越會遇見熟人。


●相對論
一分鐘有多長？
這要看你是蹲在廁所裡面，還是等在廁所外面。

覺得台灣人和大陸人當然是不一樣的，
不同的教育體制，不同的成長背景，不同的政治生態．．．
這樣的環境怎麼可能養出一樣的下一代？
這是純科學觀點哪，一點也無關政治．．

當台灣人看著媒體，罵社會亂象的當下，
讓我們找到另類觀點來看台灣，
其實台灣不像想像中的悲觀哦，
如果你仔細看一下美國的就業數據和各種現象．．
相信　我們會更感恩這樣的環境，更愛台灣．．

這是我在360!YAHOO BLOG 的心得．．
看完它，保證不再相信美國有什麼大夢可以做，
還是大家愛台灣啦．．呵


A scary report below about the jobless Americans,
especially the graphic of the percentage, got horribly increased by years:

http://www.nytimes.com/2006/07/31/business/31men.html?
pagewanted=2&ei=5087%0A&en=0669dbbbcec50c59&ex=1154750400
(((這是 的 NEW YORK TIMES 的 新聞數據...)))

Does it mean that out-of-work Americans are all around?
American Dream's become a myth?
just like so many people day-dreaming about to win the lottory....?
Has American gotten lost the position of the leader of the world? ....
American lost the ascendant competition to China...?


It could be so pathetic for the world peace...
but, At the meantime, Thank God that we won't struggle by the rate,
and guess it'll be a good alert for us to understand how to plan for the future, and can be in all immunitity haeding to better improvement. ....Hope we've already been ready for winning the world.


Well, feeling just very energetic for Monday
which such a good day given by God, and got some comments for the issue.
Have a good one too...

活著就免不了面臨到恐懼的威脅，
怕什麼呢？生活過得這樣優越就能免於恐懼嗎？

莫名的恐懼是存在的，
至少是與生俱來的，因為生和死是一條線，
當然那不是直線，人生那能沒風沒雨哪！
每個人都有一條屬於自己獨特的”曲線”
開始到終結，是唯一的，絶不重疊的曲線．．．

但是，不幸的是：
不管過程是如何，終點都是公平的，
是一致的，是單一的，是共同的一個ending...
"死亡"就擺在眼前,或近或遠而己...
那才叫真實的人生，
但我們都選擇沒看見，假裝死亡不存在，
更經常加註”不吉利”的罪名去掩飾內心的矛盾．．

”Fear, embarrassment, denial, brainwashing, confusion, insecurity.
恐懼,尷尬 否定 被洗腦,迷惑,不安全感．．．所以形容詞都成立吧．．

但是，根據上帝的邏輯，
所有現象或受創物都有在存在的理由．．

恐懼的存在其實就是一種警惕．．．
讓我更明白活著的意義哪．．
當我自”被生下來”那一刻起，就己開跑．．
而死亡就是終點，沒有退路．．
我只能更珍惜過程的點滴，
問自己盡力了沒？有無遺憾？
這才是”恐懼”的正面解釋．．

這是一個強調”自我”的年代，
每個人都說要善待自己，要對自己再好一點，
要對自己再寬容一點，要對自己再體諒一點．．

當大部份的人都在強調”做自己”的時候，
不要忘記回頭想一想．．什麼叫”真正的自己”？
到底．．又要怎樣”做自己”呢？
是否也要自我要求？對自己有所期待呢？

What's I am supposed to be?.........
（想一下，自己又如何被期待呢？．．）

Be, be here, be there, be that, be this...就說做什麼像什麼吧．．
Be greatful for life, 為生命感恩．．
be greatful to life 　向著生命感恩．．
Be gleeful everyday...為每天可以活著起床而興高采烈．．

Be food for thought to the growin mind,用思想來餵養心靈．．
be the author of your own horoscope.　當自己命盤的主人．．
Be invited, be long-living, be forgiving,be not forgetful....
要受歡迎，要活得好又久，要多體恤別人，不要那麼健忘．．

Be a proud run, only to return to fight another day　挑戰每個更好的今天．．
Be peaceful if possible, but justice in ways 倡導正義和平．．如果可行的話．．
Be high when you low, be on time but knowin to go....
低潮時，調節自己．．． 儘量按著計劃走，但是你必須懂得掌握你的方向．．

其實，活著這件事真的很詭異，每個人都活著，
但怎麼也說不來具體的描述，什麼才叫活著呢？
就算是呼吸這件事吧，有氣息就算是活人，
聖經裡，還得要加上一句”有靈的活人”才算完整

不主動，不知不覺，不小心，沒自主，就一直活下去？！
我們都是這樣嗎？有點懷疑活著的真正意義哪．
這年來，才開始真正自己體驗什麼叫活著，
而且是這樣深刻的感覺自己真正”活著”～～具體又實在的活著．．
那就是．．．．
當親眼看見爸爸，媽媽，和弟弟安停止心跳，沒了氣息．．
他們安詳的沉睡去，睡去．．睡去．．．．
他們就那樣安靜地，沒聲沒息地．．沉睡．．
身體病痛終結，煩惱遠離，報怨解除．．停止恩怨情仇．．什麼事都停止了．．
差點忘了要怎樣流眼淚？忘了是否應該悲傷？．．．

等過了一段時日，我才清醒過來
原來那叫”死亡”．．一切的終點
從此我更明白，什麼叫”活著”
原來死亡是來解釋”活著”這件事．．

如果這樣，這句話就更具意義：
"If there is no struggle, there is no progress."
- Frederick Douglass.

如果人生沒有這些苦難，我們就不懂要為”活著”而感謝．．
關於”活著”這件事，似乎也不需要懂太多．．
只管好好的活，活到最好．．這就是感謝吧！

# Name 6 habits that annoy you in others:
# ...六種讓人受不了個性:~~

1. Liar…No need for anyone to be a “Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire”.
..(謊話..謊話..就是騙子啦...)

2. When someone takes advantage of others for their own selfish reasons.
...(貪小便宜..)

3. Arrogance…Someone who thinks they are “God’s gift” to someone else
vs. them seeing others are “God’s gift” to them....(自大狂啦..)

4. Fake/wearing masks…Saying one thing and doing another
When a person’s words don’t correlate with their actions. ..
(假惺惺..講一套做一套..)

5. Body Odor…No need for someone not to take a bath and use deodorant.
....(體味? 狐臭?..Hmm..)

6. Making fun of less fortunate people (I'm not talking about idiots..lol).
Judgmental people need to take a look in the mirror.
...(要刮別人鬍子前,先看看你自己...呵...)

當有人跟你說，你看起來很好，而你通常都回答說，”那裡，那裡，我看起來一點也不好．．”　
你知道在那一刻，你做了什麼呢？．．呵，那可是不禮貌的回應哦．．．
朋友的下列這段話，讓我對如何回應別人的讚美，得到新的體會．．
下回，當有人讚美你時，記得要謝謝他們，然後沉默的，開心的接受那美麗的誠意！！
而且記得：讚美是最廉價的禮物！

Has anyone ever told you that you looked wonderful and
you respond by saying something like "No I don't...I look like a hot mess!"?
Do you know what you're doing at that moment?

First, you are telling that person that they don't know what they are talking about,
and secondly, you are completely dismissing a gift from them to you.

My Teacher once told me that it costs you nothing to make someone else feel good,
and I believe this. "Compliments" are a lot like water...
they can be carried to someone's ear by the winds just like gentle raindrops,
but enough compliments can tear down a barrier of low self-esteem,
just like enough water can erode rock.
Conversely, enough negative response to positive occurrences
can build walls where none need to exist.

When someone is trying to show kindness,
rather than dismiss it, TAKE IT AND HUSH!

When you hear a kind word about your work or about you as a person,
rather than disagree with them, TAKE IT AND HUSH!

When God is sending blessings, TAKE IT AND HUSH!

When someone does these things for you,
they believe these acts and words to be deserved...
show them enough respect to accept their offering
in the spirit in which it's intended.

當世界被拉平時，國界／性別／種族／階級／．．似乎都不重要了，
或許未來只有二種人：”有錢人”和　”沒錢人”．．
想想我們用心過生活了沒？有沒偷懶？
”知識”當然很重要了，就可以決定個人的定位，但願我們還有警惕！
　
看到一段訪問，是日本經濟大師：大前研一
也算有點爭議性的專家，（不過名人誰不是備受兩面評所苦？）
大陸熱和亞洲熱還在延燒，結果會如何，就只能時間可以證明了；
不過，我想到的不是經濟這領域，而是個人生涯規劃．．
原來他還玩越野摩托車（己經３０年了），
還挑戰潛水記錄，和其他海上運動哪．．．
他自訴說：他所認識的世界級大師或名人，
都不只在他們的個人專業裡名利雙收．．．
幾乎都有多重技能和興趣，大多都多才多藝；
最忙的人，反而完成最多的休閒活動．．
一樣的２４小時，他們發揮到極致．．有錢是必然了．．
成功真不是偶然的．．要付代價的．．
我還相信：什麼事都要付代價的．．